As the title of this post suggests, this is for the guys (but I invite the women to read, too!). I'm calling out all of the little boys right now!
Growing up, and especially throughout high school, a lot of what I heard in the hallways and classroom from the guys was who they were sleeping with, what girl they were going to sleep with next, who they wanted to sleep with, which girls looked hot, etc., etc. As men, we're sexually driven creatures. Women, you walk a certain way, talk to us a certain way, even look at us a certain way and you can get us going.
But, guys, we can't be ruled by our sexual desires. In Matthew 5:28 during Christ's Sermon on the Mount, he says, "But I tell you, that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart" (New International Version). The verse is pretty self-explanatory; if you lust after a woman (that isn't your wife), have impure thoughts about her, then you've already sinned. I've heard all too often from guys that they just want to sleep with every girl that they can jump into bed with. Okay, but what are you getting out of it? Pleasure? Sure. But are you getting anything worthwhile, anything valuable from just sleeping around?
Let's look at this way: if you were a father with a daughter, I can say with certainty you wouldn't want some guy looking at her, fantasizing about her, or talking about her the way I'm sure we've heard some guys talk about women. Now let's consider this: you, me, every person on this planet is a child of God, personally created by Him. Even is she offers her body to you, be a man and remember that she is a child of God who deserves to be loved as such and not used as our personal plaything.
Look, bottom line: thinking of women as our sex toys, sleeping around with them...it's not God-honoring and if it doesn't honor God, we're not to do it. For those of us that God has intended to become husbands, God has created someone specific for you. So be that woman's dream; put your energy into pleasing that one woman, loving her as we are called to do.
It's time to man up. Just do it.
I call bullshit, virgin boy. You know you think about women 98% of the day. Stop acting like a holier than thou dickhead and watch some porn. Be a man.
ReplyDeleteThe idea is "not what is" but "what ought to be." I think 98% in general is too low, if there were such thing as 110% then we'll claim that. Thinking about a woman is 1 thing, but the how, why, and what you do about it is another. I hope you experience a genuine gentleman who desires your best first and if you don't desire this, you ought to be treated the right way anyways.
DeleteOf course, women needed to be treated with respect, but we are sexual beings to. Relationships are built on mutual respect for one another and, with that respect, an understanding of the other partner's needs. Men shouldn't deny themselves of sex just to be some sort of "gift." Sex is is natural and it can bring you closer to your partner. It's just determining what role it should play in your relationship.
DeleteAlso, women aren't sex toys-- fleshlights are.
ReplyDelete"A man is the image and glory of God; but the woman is the glory of man." (1 Cor. 11:7)
ReplyDelete"If a woman does not cover her head, she should have her hair cut off." (1 Cor. 11:6)
"As in all the congregations of the saints, women should remain silent in the churches." (1 Cor. 14:34)
"I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man." (1 Tim. 2:12-14)
I DUNNO, sounds like a personal plaything to ME! Stop defending your bullshit dogma and contradictory doctrines and rejoin the sane members of society. Maybe if you get laid you won't be so uptight.