As the title of this post suggests, this is for the guys (but I invite the women to read, too!). I'm calling out all of the little boys right now!
Growing up, and especially throughout high school, a lot of what I heard in the hallways and classroom from the guys was who they were sleeping with, what girl they were going to sleep with next, who they wanted to sleep with, which girls looked hot, etc., etc. As men, we're sexually driven creatures. Women, you walk a certain way, talk to us a certain way, even look at us a certain way and you can get us going.
But, guys, we can't be ruled by our sexual desires. In Matthew 5:28 during Christ's Sermon on the Mount, he says, "But I tell you, that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart" (New International Version). The verse is pretty self-explanatory; if you lust after a woman (that isn't your wife), have impure thoughts about her, then you've already sinned. I've heard all too often from guys that they just want to sleep with every girl that they can jump into bed with. Okay, but what are you getting out of it? Pleasure? Sure. But are you getting anything worthwhile, anything valuable from just sleeping around?
Let's look at this way: if you were a father with a daughter, I can say with certainty you wouldn't want some guy looking at her, fantasizing about her, or talking about her the way I'm sure we've heard some guys talk about women. Now let's consider this: you, me, every person on this planet is a child of God, personally created by Him. Even is she offers her body to you, be a man and remember that she is a child of God who deserves to be loved as such and not used as our personal plaything.
Look, bottom line: thinking of women as our sex toys, sleeping around with them...it's not God-honoring and if it doesn't honor God, we're not to do it. For those of us that God has intended to become husbands, God has created someone specific for you. So be that woman's dream; put your energy into pleasing that one woman, loving her as we are called to do.
It's time to man up. Just do it.